What Kind of Service Do I Want?

 How you choose to honor a loved one is a personal decision.  The type of service chosen will vary for each family, but one thing remains the same—it provides a time and place to remember and talk about the life and death of a loved one, and it is the first step in the emotional healing process.  It is wise to choose a service that will best meet the needs of everyone in your family, remembering the services you choose serve as the statement your family makes to the community. 

Today’s contemporary deathcare practices provide many new and varied observances to allow family and friends to say “good-bye” in meaningful and comforting ways.  Personalization services are available which may include memorial folders, casket and vault personalization, special music, a portrait, video tributes, and more.  It may be of help to learn the terms frequently used by service providers when they discuss the different types of services.  The following services are provided by Pate-Jones Funeral Home:

 

Traditional Service

A full-service funeral, often referred to by service providers as a "traditional" funeral, is usually a more formal or religious ceremony with your loved one present in a casket.  Many have said seeing the embalmed body of a loved one in a peaceful state helps the family and friends to say goodbye and gain a sense of how their lives are now changed by the death of their loved one.  Generally there is a specific time for viewing and visitation prior to the funeral service.  Video tributes, photographs, mementos, a portrait, and floral arrangements all may serve to spark memories and conversation of the one who died and pay tribute to the life they lived.

This is a time to share memories and emotions with those who share in your loss.  The funeral service usually follows the visitation time on the same or next day.  It can include prayers, scripture reading, a eulogy, music, and  a sermon.  The service can be provided at the funeral home, a church, community center, or other location of your choice, including the gravesite.  After the funeral service, there is a procession to the cemetery for the burial.

 

Cremation Service

Contrary to what most people believe, cremation does not limit ones choices.  If you prefer cremation there are many options.  You may choose to have a funeral or memorial service with a gathering of family and friends. A funeral service with your loved one present, followed by cremation, need be no different than the traditional funeral and burial service that follows. Following the traditional funeral service, the loved one is transported to the crematory for cremation.  The cremated remains are usually placed in an urn of your choice before being committed to a final resting place in a cemetery or memorial garden where you and other loved ones may visit later.  Some families prefer to take the urn home with them and assume responsibility for the final disposition. Another option gaining favor is the scattering of cremated remains over a favorite place either on water or land.

 

Direct Cremation

Many people want to know how a direct cremation differs from a traditional funeral service followed by a cremation.  Direct cremation is offered to serve the specific needs of those who desire a simple, dignified, and cost effective means of disposition. Embalming is not required for a direct cremation, so it is not performed.  Cremation is performed shortly after death.  We transport your loved one to our funeral home where they are placed in an alternative container which is made of rigid cardboard suitable for cremation.  After the necessary documents are prepared, signed and approved by state and local agencies, your loved one is taken to the crematory for cremation.  They will be placed in a container and may then be placed in a crypt or niche in a cemetery, buried or scattered.  Some families find comfort in taking their loved ones home with them.  Direct cremation does not include a formal visitation, and there is no funeral service.  Simplicity is often the number one reason why people choose direct cremation.

Any service arranged which is to follow the cremation is called a "memorial service."  The memorial service may be held at a home, church, community center, outdoors, or at the funeral home.  A memorial service may be handled privately by family and friends with no additional expenses incurred.  If you elect to involve the funeral home and staff in planning and carrying out a memorial service, additional charges will apply. 

No matter the type of cremation service you prefer, please ask us to show you all the ways to make it a service that is dignified, comforting, and complete.

 

Direct Burial

Direct Burial means the body is buried shortly after death, usually in a simple container. There is no viewing, visitation, or funeral service, therefore no embalming is necessary.  The burial is at the convenience of the funeral home.  If the family chooses to be present for the burial, they are notified of the date and time of the final disposition.   Direct burial usually costs less than the "traditional," full-service funeral.